Blog — BAMBI

Reflection ◆ Identity ◆ Queerness ◆ Kenya ◆ Faith ◆ Family ◆ Body ◆ City ◆ Language ◆ Love ◆ Visibility ◆ Small Things ◆ Reflection ◆ Identity ◆ Queerness ◆ Kenya ◆ Faith ◆ Family ◆ Body ◆ City ◆ Language ◆ Love ◆ Visibility ◆ Small Things ◆

■ All Posts

24 posts

■ Reflection · Long Read

On visibility: what it costs and why I keep paying it

14 Apr 202514 min

■ Identity

The language I use for myself now, and why it took so long to find it

Every word I tried on before I found the right ones. An inventory.

7 Apr 20258 min

■ Faith

The phone call I rewrote a hundred times before I made it

The call lasted eleven minutes. The preparation took three years. Here is what I said.

10 Mar 20259 min

■ Small Things

On making tea for someone who finally knows you

The small ordinary moments that feel like something more.

3 Mar 20254 min

■ Reflection

What I used silence for, and what I use it for now

24 Feb 20256 min

■ Identity

I did not feel proud first. I felt relieved.

17 Feb 20255 min

■ Craft

Why I write in public about private things

10 Feb 20257 min

■ Featured Long Read

Long Read · Reflection

On visibility: what it costs and why I keep paying it

I didn't set out to be a public person. I set out to stop lying. The two things turned out to be the same. An essay on the peculiar economics of living openly in a world that would prefer you didn't.

14 April 2025 · 14 min read

Read Full Post →

…

Post Title

On visibility:
what it costs
and why I
keep paying it.

On visibility: what it costs and why I keep paying it

The language I use for myself now, and why it took so long to find it

The Sunday I walked back in — and what the congregation did

Notes on getting dressed without an audience in your head

Nairobi holds you differently when you stop hiding in it

The phone call I rewrote a hundred times before I made it

On making tea for someone who finally knows you

What I used silence for, and what I use it for now

I did not feel proud first. I felt relieved.

Why I write in public about private things

On visibility: what it costs and why I keep paying it

Post Title

On visibility:what it costsand why Ikeep paying it.

On visibility: what it costs and why I keep paying it

The language I use for myself now, and why it took so long to find it

The Sunday I walked back in — and what the congregation did

Notes on getting dressed without an audience in your head

Nairobi holds you differently when you stop hiding in it

The phone call I rewrote a hundred times before I made it

On making tea for someone who finally knows you

What I used silence for, and what I use it for now

I did not feel proud first. I felt relieved.

Why I write in public about private things

On visibility: what it costs and why I keep paying it

On visibility:
what it costs
and why I
keep paying it.